So I have been philosophizing about romantic relationships lately; attempting to gain a realistic perspective.
Each person,in his or her own way, is a king or queen of their domain. When we seek a mate we essentially pick someone who will fit into our world well. Someone who meets our standards and who meets or has potential to meet our individual "greatness". Your individual greatness can be defined as what gives you your special edge.
I happen to believe that it is very rare to match greatness with another. Which led to the conclusion that 99% of relationships are bound to fail. I know this to be true because once I end up with the 1 person that fits, there will never be another. I wonder how many other people feel that way.
Its rare to find people whose actions match their words and even rarer to find ones whose words match their values and morals and whose values and morals match their feelings. And thus even rarer to find those whose feelings come from a wholesome place and match their heart. You rarely come across people who are in tune with themselves. And it is a waste of energy to engage in a relationship with someone out of tune. Kind of like how a car runs with no tune ups. You set yourself up for failure engaging with a person who is not in tune.
This makes me think that the best & most healthy approach is to only focus on friends & family, school & business. Those are the genuine relationships that seem to reciprocate.
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